Relationships are the key ingredients for making a home. Good relations constitute a good home, but bad ones ruin the peace of home. Infect bad relations do not even let a house become a home. Home is a place which is erected on the foundation stones of love and perfect relationships. So, love and relationships should be nourished for making your house a perfect home.

Today I am going to discuss a very important issue which ruins the peace of your home i.e. sibling rivalry. Those who have siblings can very well understand this term. Wherever there are kids, they fight. Though it’s quite natural but often it leads to some serious issues when the children grow up. This rivalry is retained throughout childhood and turns out to be really destructive after teenage.

During childhood when we see kids fighting, we don’t take it seriously. Infact we start laughing at their petty disputes with each other, but such petty fights can result in serious and deadly rivalries if not stopped on time.

First, I will share some reasons why this problem exists. As I said above that it’s natural that kids fight with their siblings, this happens when your first child feels ignored after the birth of your second child. By the new baby’s arrival, parents’ attention is diverted towards the newborn. The newborn enjoys more attention, thus the first child a badly affected by such behaviour of his parents. Often parents love their elder offspring the most and give him or her more of their love, gifts and care. This also leads to hatred and rivalry. There is another reason which serves as the base of this problem, since in our society there are many conservative people. They give more importance to their sons as compared to their daughters. Such parents not only give special care and love to their sons, but also make their daughters act upon whatever their elder or younger brother says. Such situations lead to sibling rivalries.

Sometimes the affected child even starts hating his parents as well. Parents’ biased behavior usually leads to serious rivalry. The affected child hates his over privileged sibling. Some of them take out their frustration by breaking objects which belongs to their sibling. Some kids with a violent nature, keep this rivalry hidden till they grow up and then they do not miss any chance to hurt their sibling and even the children of their sibling. Some of them who have a les vindictive nature fall victim to self injury.

In such cases of sibling rivalry, either the affected child harms himself (mentally or physically) or others.

Now the question is how to tackle such situations. Parents should be wise enough to maintain a balanced attitude towards their kids, biased behavior not only spoils their children but they will also be affected by the results of sibling rivalry among their kids during their old age.

Parents can keep the balance by giving equal love to their kids without any kind of discrimination. When the new baby arrives, parents should not start avoiding their first baby. Those who give more importance to sons should avoid discriminating among their kids. Infact Islam also emphasizes on equal rights of love and affection for your offspring. Those who violate it are the culprits according to Islamic teachings. So, kids should be blessed with equal love and care. Parents should not give any unjust favor to any of their kids. They should avoid every act which can make their kids feel that they are not treated as well as their sibling is being treated by their parents. That’s how we can stop sibling rivalries among kids, so that a family can enjoy healthy relations!